Pain Connection Live: Call Update

Pain Connection Live Call Update


Conference DIAL-IN NUMBER: (319) 527-3510* NEW NUMBER starting 7/12/17
Participant Access code 171649#
After dialing in and entering the access code, we request a first name and state/country, or you can be silent.
It’s okay just to listen. If you wish to share you may join in.

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Participation in the conference call is free. Standard long distance charges apply to the phone call. The conference calls are not taped.

—- *New Saturday calls each month!  See details below. —-

Next Call:  Saturday*, Feb 24, 2018 from 11:00 am – noon EST;   Afternoon Call is March 1, 2018 from 1:30 – 2:30 pm EST

                 Evening Call is March 8, 2018 from 7 – 8pm EST      * Saturday calls will be led by Katie Hurley, MSW

Topic: Acceptance and Normalizing Pain

Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and that there has to be a way through it.”   — Michael J. Fox

Normalizing pain is understanding and accepting yourself as you are today.

  • Need to set realistic expectations of ourselves.
  • This includes asking for help.
  • Have a flexible plan for your day/week.
    Validate your feelings – you are not alone.

(Ideas from Making the Invisible Visible by Gwenn Herman and Mary French.)


Accept Your Pain; It Will Hurt Less by Leslie Becker-Phelps PhD (Excerpt from Article)

  •    Accepting reality leads to change like denial never can.
  1. Begin by accepting your current reality. Your situation is what it is. No amount of wishing for something different or rejecting the situation (or yourself) will change anything. However, by facing your problem, you can at least begin to address it.
  2. Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and desires. Only by knowing your inner experiences can you be true to them. When they are painful, you can then at least find ways to comfort yourself and cope as effectively as possible with them.
  3. Choose to be accepting and compassionate to your experiences. No one ever healed from a blow to the head by hitting themselves there again. The same can be said of emotional pain; that is, self-criticism about some difficulty won’t resolve that problem. In both cases, the way to heal and move beyond the hurt is to accept it and find ways to nurture the wound.  More specifically with psychological pain, acceptance and compassion are essential to heal and to free yourself and nurture greater personal growth.
  4. Plan for a better future. If you are unhappy with some aspect of yourself or your circumstance, you would benefit from planning for the change you would like to see—even as you accept and nurture your current self.

Article used for this excerpt is:

The following is adapted from Jenni Grover’s  book, Chronic Babe 101, 2017.

Acceptance examples:  The notion of Yes, and….

“Yes I have fibromyaligia and I can still work part-time in my field.”

“Yes, I spent the whole day on the couch feeling sorry for myself, and it’s okay – tomorrow’s a new day.”

Practice and Perks

Acceptance is an ongoing pursuit, one to work on daily.  


* You’ll find it gives you energy because you aren’t fighting your limitations.  Instead you are thinking about them creatively.

* It gives you a response to fear.  Hey, I’ve got this, I have options.

PainConnection Live is scheduled for the first and second Thursdays of the month.  Register with the link at the bottom of this page!  It’s free.

In the calls, the leader often refers to a book written about pain management.  This book, Making the Invisible Visible, has valuable information for people with chronic pain, their families and providers.  It is an excellent resource for how to navigate the challenges of chronic pain. Order Making the Invisible Visible for $25 plus shipping.

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The Pain Connection Live Conference Call is led by Gwenn Herman, LCSW-C (Licensed Clinical Social Worker) and Founder and Executive Director of Pain Connection, a US Pain Foundation program.

Each Call will have a topic dealing with different ways of coping with chronic pain and developing new skills. Participants have the option to discuss the topic or remain silent. Breathing techniques and guided imagery will be taught in the last 15 minutes of each call.

Pain Connection Live is open to people with chronic pain, family members, significant others, health care professionals and concerned individuals. Please respect each person’s right to express their feelings.

If you haven’t already done so, you must register for each call in which you want to participate.  — Register Here

Afternoon calls are held on the first Thursday of the month from 1:30 – 2:30 PM EST.

Evening calls are held on the second Thursday of the month from 7:00 – 8:00 PM EST.

For more information, email or call 800-910-2462.